How do you email girls on Match.com without showing interest??

First of all, let me say showing interest in a woman before she is attracted to you is the most common mistake most guys make.. The trick is to actually show DISINTEREST, she’ll think to herself “Why isn’t he hitting on me, all the other guys do.. He must have really high standards.. I want to win him over”.. How do you show disinterest to a woman? Well you tease her, bust her balls, tell her how it would never work between you and her, etc etc… You basically disqualify yourself as a potential suitor..

Once you’ve done enough of this with a woman, she’ll start actively showing interest in you. She is now ATTRACTED to you. In her eyes, you have value, you are the prize and she wants to win you over.. You’ve given her a challenge.. Now you need to LET HER win you over by qualifying her. For instance she tells you she’s Irish (it doesn’t really mater what it is, but it does help if you actually believe it since it comes off more believable), now you can say “OMG I love Irish girls”..

This is all basic “Game Theory”.. It works, it’s proven.. But online dating presents its own challenges, how do you come across as NOT INTERESTED, genuinely.. At first I tried sending emails just making fun of girls about something.. Maybe some hat they had, or some crazy shirt they were wearing.. In a teasing way of course.. Unfortunately it seems these “negs” aren’t as effective online as in real life since a lot of it is done with tonality of voice and also in real life you usually don’t start talking to a girl with a “neg”.. So a lot of these girls didn’t respond… So how the fuck do I email them in a way that shows HONEST DISINTEREST??

Then…. EUREKA! This is my new email I sent out last night, which 2/5 girls responded (40% conversion rate, pretty awesome).

“Hey don’t take this the wrong way, but I’m sending out some emails to reach my 6 month guarantee quota on here.. You seem cool though, best of luck :).

-Brad”

One word:

GENIUS!

For those of you who don’t know, match.com has this thing where if u don’t find someone in 6 months, they give you 6 months free.. But the requirement is you have to send out a minimum of 5 emails a month or else you don’t get the 6 months.. So in their mind the purpose of my email had NOTHING to do with hitting on them.. This is a great “Neg”.. Then I just say best of luck, as if this is the end of the correspondence..

Of course now they go and look at my profile.. “Wow this guy seems cool, he’s different, edgy etc etc” The goal of the email and profile is to BUILD ATTRACTION.. If they email me back, of course now they are interested.. So now it’s time for me to qualify them and get their phone #s… Will keep you guys posted on developments :)..